The picture of this anvil is what the phone felt like to me in early sobriety.
How many of you can relate?
The suggestion: Pick up the phone and ask for help! Early on, for me, it was for help to not drink…. As my recovery time has progressed this concept spread into other areas.. PICK UP THE PHONE to say ‘Hi’, to communicate so things do not get lost in translation via text or emails, to accomplish projects/goals, and to ask for help… Some might say that talking on the phone is becoming a lost art and that people are not doing it anymore…..
I am guilty of NOT picking up the phone. I revert to the “easier, softer” less personal way of communicating. Texting is my FAVORITE! I would much rather isolate in my home office from family, friends, co-workers and other responsibilities only communicating electronically – text and email. Some days, my 4.55 ounce iPhone is just too heavy to pick up!!!
The most recent example in my life that got me thinking about picking up the phone happened this week. I have been communicating, via email for 1.5 years, with the Department of Health and Human Services trying to get reciprocity in my current State of residence for my California issued Mental Health License with minimal progress and lots of frustration.
A WHOLE YEAR AND A HALF!!!
Due to my frustration, I finally wrote a fiery email to the woman I have been communicating with. Before hitting send, I paused, prayed, and then PICKED UP THE PHONE to chat with her live… WHAT A CONCEPT!!! Confusion was put to rest and I was offered solutions to roadblocks I had been coming into contact with…. It will still take some time to get the reciprocity, and it may not even work, but at least now I have a solution and feel some hope!
LESSON: A phone call with the right tone and humility gets much more results than emotionally charged emails or texts….
Most of all I am reminded to pick up that hundred pound phone!!!!
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